It is you who crafts your experience of life.  And once this is understood you can craft the experience towards your desired preference.  It is through our filters that we interpret life's events and this interpretation becomes how we experience life.  But the events that occur in nature and our life just are; they have no meaning and no interpretation.  It is we who attach the meaning and therefore we control how we experience life's events.  While the filters, viewpoints, beliefs and perspectives that we use to interpret life are created over time and in our past, we remain in control of how these filters work and whether they continue to exist into the future or not.  With this understanding we can create a different process of how we interpret and experience life into the future.  We are not beholden to processes and "software" we have used in the past, we can create new models and new algorithms that changes how we interpret future events and therefore change how we experience life.  Our past does not dictate our future, choice does.

Destiny is what you create for yourself.  Fate is when you fail to create your own destiny.  Sadhguru

Difficulties in your life don’t come to destroy you, but to help you realize your hidden potential.  Anonymous

Life is without meaning. You bring meaning to it. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Joseph Campbell